I Got Shhh On My Mind

 

Today's commentary is going to deal with the unemployment situation. I read a Facebook picture meme that stated "You Need Experience To Get Experience". Ok...and how is someone supposed to gain experience if they aren't given a shot? Someone can be qualified for a position & interview well, and still not get the job. "Seeking intern with 1-3 years experience in software development" Last I checked, internships were designed to give you EXPERIENCE which could lead to permanent full-time employment. The whole statement "You Need Experience To Get Experience" is malarky. Make it so bad, some unemployed people have given up looking for work, because they're tired of the games employers pay; call someone for an interview only to realize that HR already had someone else in mind. Well, if you already had someone in mind, why would you get a person's hopes up for nothing? That makes zero sense. It's foolishness like this that's the reason why many people are looking to full-time work-at-home jobs. Every now & then, I research internet income opportunities and I read testimonials of how regular people (some of which had corporate jobs) got tired of the corporate grind, and decided to get into working from home. These people are making much more working from home, than they did working full-time. Before you know it, there won't be a workforce because everyone went the work-from-home route. Simply put, employees are getting sick of corporate games: Companies expect loyalty from their employees, but lay them off in the same light. I could see laying off dead weight at your firm, because the slackers are there to collect a check. I can't understand laying off your most talented employees. Tell me what sense does it make to lay off your most skilled employees? NONE. I link this to sports: A coach keeps mediocre players, and trades his best players. A good coach keeps his best players, and works with the mediocre players so they too, can become skilled. The job market isn't like it used to be under President Clinton. When Clinton was in office, unemployment was at its lowest in decades; and the economy was prospering (that's another commentary for another time). You Need Experience To Get Experience is the dumbest statement I've ever heard. To Get Experience, You need to be hired first.

Arranged Marriage

The following was posed as a Question From A Friend, and deals with Arranged Marriages.

Question From A Friend: ARRANGED MARRIAGES! The more and more I think about it, I am a strong advocate of arranged marriages. Why? I want my daughters to marry into families that share the same godly values, share the same culture, religion, and language, and a similar socio-economic class. These identical factors would help make communication between the two individuals easier and help them understand their origins, carrying these values through generations. Although differences are necessary, when both individuals have a common core foundation in these areas, there would be more chances that the marriage would be successful and the risk of divorce would be lowered, creating a strong nuclear family. Yes, it is counter-cultural in our society, but certainly worthy of consideration. Would you consider this for your children? Why or why not?

 

My $.02: I've thought about arranged marriages, and I've come to a conclusion: Arranged Marriages are necessary. Why are arranged marriages necessary? Because it's hard to find someone who shares the same religion & culture, godly values, language and socio-economic class. Although differences are necessary, too much difference is bound to terminate the marriage because the couple has nothing in common. I come from a two-parent home (as do most people) and I think about those who come from divorced backgrounds. A woman that hasn't had a father in her life would have a tough time relating to her husband, because she wouldn't be able to understand how a man feels, and thinks. Being able to relate to your spouse is paramount to marital bliss. The same applies to men; Men who haven't had a mother in their life (either she's a deadbeat or passed early on in childhood) wouldn't understand women because he hasn't had anyone to teach him how women think & feel. It's no secret that two-parent households produce well-adjusted children, because those children are able to witness their parents interacting with each other; showing them how a loving couple behaves. Children who witness loving relations between parents are likely to emulate that in their own committed relationships with their spouses. Arranged marriages wouldn't be a bad idea, as divorce would almost be exterminated. When both individuals have a common core foundation, arranged marriages have a higher success rate because both man & woman would be on the same page. I would consider an arranged marriage for my child(ren), if I got to know my child(ren)'s mate, and both families were on the same page. Looking throughout the Bible, I realize that arranged marriages were the norm; there was no courting involved. Going further, arranged marriages can seem forced, because in a sense, a parent is picking their child's husband and/or wife. Let the child grow up to make up his/her mind as to who they want to marry. As long as parents raise their child(ren) under sound doctrine, then that child will make good choices in life. Looking at the divorce rate, it's safe to say that many people aren't making sound decisions in who they marry. If you've known someone since childhood, there's a big advantage of knowing them as a person because you two grew up together. That's where the arranged marriage concept comes from, growing up with someone of similar background & mindset.



Petty BS

Petty BS seems to be more prevalent than ever. Everybody getting in their feelings over trivial matters, not acting like they have sense, etc. For some people, being petty is a way of life. It's fine, because as long as I don't have to be around them, that stench won't rub off on me. If it's one thing I can't stand, is to see grown folks acting petty. I expect kids to act that way, because they don't know any better, but for adults to be on some childish mess is disgusting. I'm aware that there are teens that are more mature than these so-called adults, and that's sad (although it's good). For the most part, kids do what adults do. If kids see adults acting with good sense, they will emulate that; If kids see adults carrying on in ratchetland, guess what? They do the same. Adults cannot get upset about kids acting petty when 9 times out of 10, those adults taught them the ins and outs of pettiness. This is what constitutes Petty BS: Gossiping. Gossiping used to be confined to women, but MEN are engaging in gossiping. A man that talks about another person behind his/her back IS NOT a man. A man tells you what he thinks face to face; he has nothing to hide. Regardless of gender, gossiping is petty on both ends. If you can't stand behind what you say, why talk behind someone's back? You can talk crazy behind someone's back, but when word gets back to them, you get that Scooby Doo. Another example of Petty BS is frenemies. Frenemies are people who are friendly towards each other based on a beneficial relationship, but harbor resentment. Frenemies can't be trusted because you don't know where they stand; one minute they're cool with you, and the next they can't stand you. That's a good example of petty BS because some people don't have the guts to be straightforward. They would rather smile in your face, and plot on you behind your back. To me, that's petty & fake simultaneously. The older I get, the less tolerance I have for petty nonsense, from myself, and others. No Bueno.

Why Are You Single? By Trina Rogers

Trina BabyTee Rogers

Young and young-minded females have a few subconscious issues to resolve. Why are they single? Of the many answers I have been presented with, one response has never been stated with all honesty. I've heard the ones who say 'I want this type of man', 'he has to be able to handle a woman like me', 'there are no good men', 'they're all gay or married'. Typical deflection if you ask me. But what about this response: I need my life (heart, body, mind and soul) to be completely ready for when God sends him to me. Some women have requirements, expectations, demands and presumptions about what 'the man for them' should be, but the man has the right to want a certain type of woman as well. In the midst of all the chaos of the Good Black Man/Woman relationship, have these women really taken into account their attitude and conversation towards men? While they are speaking their mind, recalling past experiences they can't let go of, and placing blame for whatever reason, that one man is sitting on the sidelines watching their every move. Do they think that man likes what he sees? Do they think God will send them a man when they regularly talk and behave the way they do towards what He has created for them? If the old cliche' is true that Game recognize Game, they see the no-good men because they themselves are.

 

 

 

 

 



RichardISMS

1. What you value, goes into how you live your life.

2. During the course of getting to know someone, how they handle the word "no" speaks volumes about their character. Are they going to have a conniption just because they don't get their way?

3. You cannot be a leader without any followers.

4. Most people are great individuals until you make them mad, and all heck breaks loose. Your true character shows in rough times.

5. What you allow, is what will continue. For instance, if you allow someone to disrespect you and you don't check them, they will continue doing so.

6. Just because a man speaks truth about a woman, it doesn't mean he hates his mother or women. Some women need to stop that foolishness.

7. I used to think everyone was cut out for marriage, but now, not so much. Unrealistic expectations from men & women have contributed to this mindset.

8. Black Men & Women have a hard time finding quality mates, so why do some (wo)men try to make it seem like one gender is better off than another when it comes to searching for love? True, women far outnumber men, but quantity doesn't always equal quality.

9. 20-30 years from now, most people won't remember Drake, Lil Wayne, or Rick Ross.

10. There are girls, and there are women.

11. There are boys, and there are men.

12. If a man is truly interested in a woman, he will move heaven & earth to show it.

13. Much of life comes down to choice, take or trust.

14. People talk about Jesus Take The Wheel, but when Jesus takes the wheel, folks want to get back in the driver's seat.

15. Better watch those people you call your friends!

16. Loyalty is a lost art among people; everyone has their own agenda.

17. Riding solo isn't always a bad thing.

18. I remember when Atlanta and Miami cats used to beef heavy in the 90's, because the Boobie Boys took over Atlanta's dope scene

19. Home should be the one place you have peace. If you don't have peace in your own home, something's wrong.

20. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.



Ladies, Know Your Role: By Trina Rogers

This conversation is based on a status from Trina Rogers, called Knowing Your Role As A Woman. This is her status: A woman who knows her place, never loses her position.

　

Renee Robertson Some women just don't get this..

　

Trina BabyTee Rogers So very true Renee! Traditions have been distorted, and principles have no value anymore. I hear women saying they will submit to God and His will for their lives, but they won't submit to the man that God sent to them and what He created specifically for them. Submit doesn't mean being a doormat or a slave. It means the woman acknowledges the role the man has in a relationship and is willing to help him to achieve and succeed for both in the partnership.

　

Richard Hudson School these wayward women Trina BabyTee Rogers. It's funny though, because if a woman can't submit to God's ordained man for her life, how can she expect to submit to God and his will for her life? NO BUENO.

　

Trina BabyTee Rogers Exactly Richard!! They get caught up in "whom" they are submitting to, not why!

Renee Robertson Women have a problem letting a man lead and quite truthfully a lot of men want to lead in certain areas and want to fall back in others...It doesn't work like that! You need to be the man of the house and if a woman can't let him be just that she's either with the wrong man or needs to stay single a little longer until she gets it. I have a strong personality and very strong willed, and if you let me walk over you, its a turn off and I can't do it! If you can't speak up for yourself, you damn sure won't be able to speak for me!!

　

Richard Hudson There can't be two chiefs in a relationship. If you have two strong personalities in a relationship, you two will clash. It's best to have one strong-willed person, and the other be a combination of strong and meek (not pushover, but speaking up when it counts).

Trina BabyTee Rogers The woman can be as strong as a man. She just needs to realize when to use that strength and never use it against him. The man wants to know that when he isn't there she can hold down the home and family.

Richard Hudson Right. Many women lose sight of this. No man wants a woman that can't hold it down in his absence.

Renee Robertson That's where the right man comes to play Richard and being ready for him.. A strong woman will submit to man she feels deserving when she's ready!

　

Richard Hudson Of course Renee. A woman should never submit to a man that hasn't proven himself. That's why many women have issues with submission, they submit to the wrong clowns who aren't about nothing.



A Liar Is Dangerous

Falcons LB Brian Banks after his first training camp practice

 

If the Brian Banks story has taught anyone anything, it should be that A Liar Is Dangerous. Why are liars dangerous? Because a liar can't be trusted. Someone's life could be at stake, and the difference between life & death could lie in a liar's testimony. If they tell a fib, the alleged offender goes free, but if they tell the truth, the offender is locked up for life. I read instances on how people have lied on someone in revenge. Want examples? Here's one. A woman and her husband are engaged in a bitter divorce, citing irreconcilable differences. Each has a sizeable amount of assets. If memory serves me, alimony favors women because sometimes, women enter a relationship with less than their men, so the courts look at it like; she needs such & such amount to survive, so we're taking half of everything this man has worked for. She's not satisfied, so she's looking to take him for everything (or close to it) he has. When a person's been wronged, most times they're looking for revenge. Why wouldn't they? They want the other person to hurt just like they do/did. For anyone not familiar with Brian Banks, let me get you up to speed. Falcons LB Brian Banks was falsely accused of rape, and did 10 years for a crime he didn't commit. He was released not too long ago, and is looking to reestablish his football legacy. For him not to have ill feelings towards his accuser, speaks volumes about his character. I don't know too many people that would take being falsely accused lightly, and rightfully they shouldn't. When your life is on the line, you're supposed to fight. We must not allow anyone to front on us, and we not do anything about it. Me personally, I don't know if I could forgive right off bat; It would take lots of prayer for me to not hold a grudge against the lying woman. You can forgive, but not forget; otherwise, what's the use of having gone through that ordeal? That's crazy to me. There are real-life examples of people being falsely accused; having done 10, 20 years before they're found innocent. By that time, it's too late. Being falsely accused of a crime, and having to do a bid, only to be found innocent years later does something to your psyche. No amount of money can make up for lost time. Your kids are grown or almost grown, so that means you missed out on graduations (high school & college), and other milestones. You didn't ask to be falsely accused, someone decided to be spiteful and frame you. The worst kind of liar(s) is one in authority. The reason why liars in authority are extra dangerous is because your livelihood is oftentimes in their hands. They don't need a reason to dislike you, they just don't like you. These people go to great lengths to get you fired, written up, etc. all because you're a threat to them. One day, you find yourself unemployed through no fault of your own, many times a spiteful supervisor finally succeeded in getting you fired. It's gravy though, because it's a blessing. You no longer have to experience that nonsense, though the aftereffects linger for quite sometime. Every person you come in contact with, you assume they are foul because of past experiences. Those are instances where a liar is dangerous. Like the elders say, if you lie, you'll steal.