Trading Heaven For Hell

"Nojma Reflects

January 11

You have to love the women that send me messages. Just bless their poor little deflecting hearts. I was told that submissive women get "boring" after awhile. Hey Brothers how many of you trade in your peaceful home, with a submissive wife, who knows her role, doesn't challenge yours, who manifests the continuance of your existence through her womb for a loud mouthed, you can't tell me nothing, I am grown woman " punchanella, punchanella what can you do? punchanella, punchanella I can do it too...except I can do it better rebel of a woman? Because that makes so much sense right? To trade Heaven for Hell."

What man wants to trade heaven for hell? Any man that trades a good, submissive, strong woman for a rebellious woman deserves every bit of hell she will put him through. Constant verbal warfare, the snide remarks, belligerence, etc. No sensible man wants to go through that. It baffles me that there are women who think like the above referenced in Nojma's blog. These women believe that challenging their man on every front equals strength. No, it means you don't trust his judgement to where you fall back and let him lead. Over time, he will get sick of the constant warfare with his lady and go elsewhere. What one woman won't do, another will. A man willingly choosing a rebel woman is like throwing yourself into molten lava, he gets burned beyond recgonition. A man goes to war every day he steps outside his door and the LAST place he wants to have wars is his home, the place of peace.

Call & Response Segment

Normally I do blog commentaries on various issues but today's going to be different. I'm going to post a series of statements that sound crazy and I give a response. Without further ado, let's get it on!

1. The sweetest woman in the world can become the meanest woman in the world if you make her that way.

Response: Negative. She was already mean to begin with, just that she did a good job suppressing it.

2. A man sleeps around and gets called a pimp, while a woman sleeps around and gets called a trick, hoe, slut, etc.

Response: Both men and women who sleep around are playing Russian Roulette with their lives. But hey, if you want your meat to turn rancid and your kitty to shrivel up into a prune, who am I to judge?

3. Everybody deserves a chance, just not from me.

Response: That's your perogative, but know that the other person can say the same to & about you.

4. Good Men & Women are hard to find

Response: Negative. They're right in front of you but you don't want to do the work to get & keep one.

5."I'm a good woman with a Master's Degree, my own house and car"

Response: And? So are many other women, what makes you stand out from the rest?

6. All women are golddiggers.

Response: You get what you put out. If you floss like you have bankrolls, then expect every woman on the block checking for you.

7. Men Are Dogs

Response: You stayed with that dog, so what does that make you? It's owner.

8. Mom! I'm pregnant. It's something in the air

Response: Your legs.

9. Women say: Your body is a temple, not a visitor's center

Response: Really? With all the men you let visit your temple, you need to consider expansion.

10. Behind every good man is a good woman

Response: For the most part, this is true. A good woman brings out the best in her man and vice versa.

Sarcasm, Role Reversal & Exposure

 I can say and do what ever I want to who ever I want because I'm me and I'm God's Chosen One. Only he can judge me and no one else can. 

That's right!

I talk to God ALL the time and he said to me that it don't matter if I call black men weak, broke, or liars because God agrees with me. He told me that it doesn't matter that I took my "baby daddy's" children from him and hid them from him because he's not giving me more or enough money.

God is MY MAN!

He told me just the other day when people were condemning me for tricking for money to buy some jewelry, get my kids some Baby Phat, me a nice Gucci purse, and maybe some baby formula, that to tell y'all that you're GOING STRAIGHT TO HELL and that he doesn't like UGLY.

Only God can judge and ya'll MESSED UP NOW!

OOOOOOOH girl, I can't wait for God to put you black men on a shishkebab and roast your little black butts in HELL for talking crap about his "chosen one" for tricking to SURVIVE. 

You MESSED UP NOW!

Thank you JESUS!

Out of the mouths of fools. What do some of these ignorant women think God's going to do? JUDGE THEM. This is sarcasm, role reversal and exposure all in one!

Anything You Can Do, I Can Do Better

"Nojma Reflects

You know, when we start dabbling into the thinking of "anything a man can do, a woman can do and do it better", we get into dangerous territory. Your search for a man will be null and void, because you will never have a man if you are trying to BE a man. The truth is men and women are NOT made equal. I never heard a man witness his wife or a woman give birth and say "man I would be so much better at labor then she would"!

Appreciate the way God made you. I love and I mean I freaking LOVE being a woman. I love my femininity. I love the beauty, power and life that is my womb, and I don't take that for granted at all.

I am learning that some women are confusing "independence" with "confidence", and since confidence is appealing, those who confuse the two don't understand why they aren't appealing.

Confidence is security in yourself, is loving yourself, loving the way God made you, your talents, and as a woman if you are confident in your womanhood, your ability to nurture, console, comfort and you know the value of your womb, THAT is appealing.

However, telling a man you don't need him for anything is quite the turn off."

I know we've all heard the little cartoon jingle "Anything you can do, I can do better, I can do anything better than you. No You Can't, Yes I Can" It's ok to have confidence in yourself & your ability but let's be clear, God didn't make men & women equal. He created men and women with a set of characteristics that defines who they are. There are things men can do better than women and vice versa. That's okay. Have you ever heard a man witness his wife or a woman giving birth and say "I could give birth better than her" NEGATIVE! Because men don't do that. For the most part, men know their place. Deep down, women need men and men need women so let's stop fronting and admit we need each other.

Good Good Won't Cut It

"Nojma Reflects

I know you have taken that infamous “Smack it up, flip it, rub it down, oh, no” verse to a new level. I mean you can do cartwheels; handstands, back flips, you just have all types of tricks in your stash. You just know that your sex is so good, that you can get anything you want from him right? While you do what you do, you’re thinking “yes I've got him, I am securing my position as his woman”, when in reality the “position” that you’re in is only securing the fact that in that moment, you are giving him PLEASURE. "Pleasure is fleeting" and if you have this mindset....then so are you."

I love a confident woman, one who's sure of herself and what she brings to the table, but some women think good sex is all it takes to keep a man. If he's thirsty like she is then yes, he'll stay around for that good good. A discerned brother that knows what he wants will understand that it takes more than good sex to keep him. Deep conversations about where the couple sees themselves 3, 5 years from now will always trump good good because both parties are concerned with the inner instead of the outer. Some people are too focused on pleasure instead of longevity. What if medical challenges say a couple can't have sex? Then that "good good" she once had will shrivel up and die. Either he's going to love her regardless or look for sexual pleasure outside the relationship. Good good isn't going to make a relationship last, it's communication and loyalty. If anything, sex is a bonus.

Facebook Amusement Park

Welcome To Facebook, where liars tell more lies, losers are CEO's, every sinner is a saint, captain save 'em is a pimp, haters complain about haters, friends & family block you, enemies are facebook friends, weak people are gangsters and some women are models. Men post pics of themselves with shades and last but not least most people put on for the book. You can be whatever you want to be on Facebook so step right up. Some folk know they need to stop fronting for Facebook. The worst is when someone knows you outside of FB that knows your history and you're on here putting on for FB. That's why it's not cool to add every Tom, Dick & Harry that requests you because you don't want to look crazy by talking about how you're this & that. Granted, there are truthful people on Facebook who keep it real on and offline (myself included) but to outright front for FB is not the move. Who are you trying to impress? I feel like this, be yourself on and offline. Nobody on Facebook impresses me enough to where I have to front about who and what I am. The thing is, there's always a few people that have you as a mutual friend so you are affiliated by default. I joined facebook to meet new people and connect with those I lost touch with over the years. There are people I haven't seen since high school & college that I looked up (and have looked me up) who added me and vice versa. All others, we share similar views and outlooks on life. Honestly, for anyone to get an add from me I pay attention to what they post. If they post inspiration, humor or general thoughts, they get a request from me because I like stuff like that.

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Utter Nonsense

This is why Christians should not go to nightclubs because it arouses sinful behavior. In the above photo you see a woman gyrating on the man and the next day he's in church praising God. It's sad and true at the same time. There's always a few people that go out on Saturday night and act the fool, then be in church the next morning singing God's praises. Ask these people what the sermon was about and you'll hear crickets & tumbleweeds. Most of them that go DON'T know the word, they look at it as a place to go every time they make bad decisions because they are easily forgiven. Yes, God forgives but he expects us to make leeway towards becoming more like Him. I'm the least perfect person, but at least when I foul up, I make amends not to do it again. If you're gonna go to the club, go to the club but don't look crazy by going to the club Saturday night and have the nerve to be in church the next day knowing you did God knows what last night.