Mar 18, 2016

Strawberry Letter: You Can't Have Children, I'm Gone


To a man, having children is everything because he gets to pass on his wisdom to his children. Teaching his son how to shoot a gun, throw his first pitch, watch sports; those things mean the world to men when his wife bares his children. When a man's wife can't produce children, it makes him feel some kind of way because he's thinking something's wrong with him or her. We live in a fallen world so there's no guarantees in life. I'm not going to come down on this man because he has every right to feel the way he does. They're established in their careers so they were ready to have children. Fast forward to the surgery. Yeah, he was there for her during the surgery, so how else is she expecting him to feel? She can't give him what he wants, so if he's feeling some kind of way, there's no telling how she's feeling. There are no guarantees in life. She needs to have a real conversation with him. He needs to know how she felt going through her situation and how his abandonment made her feel. He left her, who's to say he won't leave her this time should another trial come? Is she sure it was her inability to have children? Was there a possibility she could've died? Did he father any children interim? Is she satisfied with his answers? She shouldn't move in together. Review the vows and his response to the question, and she should go slow.
at No comments:

Mar 17, 2016

Situationship: Men Of Color

Pardon the expletives, I'm just reposting.

Men Of Color
15 hrs · 
SITUATIONSHIP: 
Stay in a woman’s life long enough for her to get used to you, and she’ll drop all standards. Ex-boyfriends or random dudes that have kept in contact over the years are the best at pulling off situationships because they sell their dick better than Timeshare companies. Miss Typical will think that her history with a guy protects her from being hurt. You forget to take into account that the reason you broke up with this dude or why you two never became official back then was because there was some incompatibility. You ignore that huge red flag because you are bored and tired of looking for love. You just want a familiar dick that won’t make your sleep number go up, and the ability to chill with someone you don’t have to worry about impressing.
These type of situationships work really well for the first month or two because it is exactly what you say it is. Do you know why this is? Because any man, no matter how fucked up he is, will be on his best behavior to insure that you don’t change your mind about the arrangement. However, after he’s fucked you several times and has gotten comfortable again, he can drop the act and be the asshole he is normally. That means he no longer comes running when you call, he doesn’t pick up on the first ring or respond back to your texts as fast as he used to, and he’s back to lying about where he’s going to be and why he can’t see you. He didn’t change up, he changed back! Every man knows when he’s hooked a woman because her temper becomes short and her behavior out of the ordinary. The moment you argue over something dumb, when you used to laugh it off—hooked. The moment when you call us late at night instead of waiting for our call—hooked. When you start suggesting we go out, when it was only supposed to be a non-serious chill and fuck relationship—hooked.
Miss Typical will drive herself crazy trying to treat a nigga that’s not her boyfriend like he is, and the man will just distance himself more and more because he wasn’t lying when he said he didn’t want anything serious (with her). These things end two ways, either the woman has had enough and cuts him off or the man gets a real girlfriend who forces him to cut her off. Either way, within a year Miss Typical will get a call from that same dude like, “We was having fun, til you started tripping. Let’s hang out like old times.” And then they are on again… repeating that basic ass cycle once more.
at No comments:

Mar 16, 2016

Wednesday Wisdom







at No comments:

Mar 15, 2016

Abort The Child or Keep The Baby?

WGCI 107.5 Radio
5 hrs ·

Love'em OR Leave'em:

Lisa is upset because her husband Donovan wants her to have an abortion. Donovan is concerned because they already have 2 kids and financially they're already stretched to their max because he's been laid off before. Lisa found out a month ago that she was pregnant, but she JUST told Donovan....and now if she was to go thru with the abortion, she's running out of time. She doesn't want to have the abortion but she's feeling the pressure!
Should she LOVE or LEAVE the baby???
 
Situations like this can destroy a marriage because she's torn between honoring her husband's wishes to abort the baby and keeping the child. This is why a couple should be financially stable before they bring children into the world. Children cost money from birth to 18, and if a couple isn't up to that responsibility, then maybe they should hold off on kids for now. My thought is: Why would they move forward with the decision to have children and they were stretched financially? That makes 0 sense. Maybe they went ahead with having children assuming the husband would be back to his previous financial status, I don't know. All I know is that the possibility of abortion is rough on a woman, let alone a man (provided he wants to keep the baby). Any woman who's had an abortion knows how haunting it is physically and mentally. Some women never get over having had an abortion, so for him to ask his wife to undergo a potentially devastating maneuver is crazy.
They should have taken precautions to prevent her pregnancy. He should've gotten a vasectomy and she should've gotten her tubes tied. Otherwise, pregnancy is always a possibility during sexual activity. If a couple doesn't want a baby, they shouldn't lay down with each other, period. I'm in a Facebook group and some people are putting it all on the man, which is insane to me because it takes two to make a baby. It's not the man or woman's fault, it's BOTH couple's fault for not taking the necessary precautions to prevent this from happening. It's funny how some people are ready to put it on the man, but some people forget that once a man ejaculates inside of a woman, that sperm travels through a woman's body, therefore starting the creation of a baby. To me, this is a lose-lose situation because if she keeps the baby, they'll struggle financially to raise that child (assuming they're still stretched financially) and the husband may resent his wife. If she aborts, she'll end up hating her husband for forcing her to go through with an abortion.


at No comments:

Mar 14, 2016

#RHOA S8:17 Who's Been Naughty,Who's Been Nice Finale Review!!!!

at No comments:

Mar 12, 2016

Episode 2: Let The Truth Be Told

at No comments:

Mar 11, 2016

Friday Gospel

at No comments:
Subscribe to: Posts (Atom)

Gentle Parenting

  Gentle parenting breeds disrespectful & entitled kids.🤦🏾😎I’m glad I was raised old-school.