Jun 22, 2015

I AM NOT A FATHER: Tina DeVeaux

  Every single mother who feels she deserves to be honored on Father's Day for playing both roles NEEDS to read this (I know many of them won't, but I'm still going to share):

Tina DeVeaux
I AM NOT A FATHER...

I was blessed to like, love, date, marry and burry an amazing man for nearly 14 years who blessed me with 3 extraordinary children. I AM their mother. I am NOT their father.

Similar to Rachel Dolezal, I lack the authentic experience of growing up as a boy and transitioning into manhood and fatherhood.

I lack the experience of the neurological and hormonal cues that translate into fatherly nurturing.

I lack the male experience of teaching a boy to swing from ropes, fight, cook meat, camp and date.

I lack the tone of voice that instills a fatherly fear in every child within ear range.

I lack the stature of a man that calls things into order simply with his presence.

I lack the pride and maturity that a man experiences the first day he learns he will be a father.

I lack the ability to provide and protect as a man and instill the discipline that only a father can authentically instill.

I lack the ability to challenge, provoke, and enforce the tools and exercises that a father brings.

I lack the physical, emotional, social and spiritual contribution and commitment of a father that gets handed down to his children.

I AM NOT A FATHER. I AM A MOTHER. I AM AN EXTRAORDINARY MOTHER who has trusted God to make up the difference, leaned on the wisdom of great fathers and worked overtime as a woman to attempt to fill in the gaps!

Happy Father's Day to the men in my life who have shared your stories, given me advice, corrected my approach, shared with my children, been an example and toughened me up when all I wanted to do was cry and let go.

I WOULD NOT DARE ATTEMPT TO STEAL YOUR DAY!! YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY! ENJOY YOUR DAY, YOU DESERVE IT!! ‪#‎Salute‬

Jun 21, 2015

Question From A Friend

I got this post from someone's Facebook page, and I think it sheds light as to what's happening in Black America, and society as a whole.

QFAF (Question From A Friend): True or False: The black community imitates the black church in that when the head is removed (The MAN) from the household/church, the followers (The WOMEN) run out of control...this is the plan of the New World Order.

False in the greater sense...that the black community as a whole, doesn't not reflect the Christian church at all. If it did, we wouldn't have a fraction of the issues we're facing. We need to stop playing church because we'll go and cut up, but there's no redeeming power in just going to the building and then Monday-Saturday, just doing whatever you want to do. It's about becoming more spiritual by developing a personal relationship with our Creator, and not just go through the motions or being religious; there's a huge difference between the two. And when the New World Order is fully implemented, the religious and non-religious folk alike will wish they did have a personal relationship with God, and of course before dying which will probably occur prior to the NWO, which still has a way to go because Christians all over the world are impeding it's full implementation, but the signs are there, we're just getting bits and pieces of it here and there, but they're slowly turning up the heat the way you'd boil a frog. Before you realize it, you're cooked! If you don't really know HIM, now is the time, before it's too late.

My View: I think this post is spot on because men are the head, and if the head's not right, it trickles down to the rest of the family. Satan knows this, which is why he's attacking manhood full force. From this gay agenda to absentee fathers, men are under attack. Manhood is under attack because many people realize that a powerful, educated man is dangerous. He can do damage with his mind, and that's what most people fear. I'm not going to get into single moms wishing themselves Happy Father's Day, because we know that would be a long post. I'll address that some other time.

Jun 20, 2015

Charleston Black Church Massacre: Is The Shooter's Family Victims?

When those 9 victims died at the hands of Dylann Roof in Charleston, people had every right to side-eye the judge when he said "There are victims in Dylann Roof's family" Ummmm....I don't see how Roof's family can be victims when those 9 people died at Dylann's hands. The only victims are the families of those 9 people who died in that church massacre. Dylann's family is not a victim, so let's cut the crap with saying "There are victims in this young man's family." It's stupid...seriously. One more thing, any racial progress that was made, might further divide this country even more. Now, whites will feel uncomfortable visiting a black church, and blacks will automatically assume ALL white people are prejudice scum (Personally, I don't believe that, but I can't say the same for other blacks). Ferguson, Baltimore, and now the Charleston church massacre. I hate what he did, but I don't hate him. I just feel more sympathy for the victims' families than I do for the shooter's. I hate to see innocent folks suffer.

Jun 19, 2015

ZING!



This tweet is my thoughts on the Charleston Church Shooting




Good Shall Prevail: Jeannine Carswell

All of my Facebook friends are dropping fire so much that I may have to promote their content on my blog all year. Jeannine is one of my closest Facebook friends, who I've known for years on a previous social networking site before Facebook. Here is what she has to say about the Charleston Church Shooting:

Jeannine Carswell
So I just got home and am now able to watch the coverage of this horrendous Church Shooting. Apparently, it's true that this was a racially motivated incident. And you know what I have to say about that?? OBAMA.

All of these incidences kicked up 1000 notches AFTER Obama became President. Him being Black has truly sent all these closet racists into a complete and utter FRENZY. They are panicked and full of hatred and acting out! It's time to quite BSing about this! All these police shootings, and now these church killings, etc....this certainly is NOT all a coincidence. There is a difference between being Diplomatic and being in Denial. We are truly reliving the 1960's here and this is not a joke, not something to be blown off, and NOT at all something to repeat! This story is absolutely disgusting to me.

But we must remember - there is ALWAYS a push-back from those who are Evil, before the Good actually prevail and change occurs. History tells us this. So it's plain and it's clear...that it is truly time for us younger generations (of ALL races) to "grab the torch" from those before us and see this f*cking fight through to the end. NO PAIN, NO GAIN RIGHT? Don't let lives lost be in vain. The corruption must stop, and it will!

Jun 18, 2015

Dr. Umar Johnson Is In Love With A Stripper

Dr. Umar Johnson, the Prince Of Pan-Africanism as he calls himself, is one of the most outspoken public figures in the black community. He was recently exposed for chasing a stripper, which some say was out to bring him down from the very start; and did she ever. Because this "conscious stripper" brought Dr. Umar Johnson down, his credibility may be shot. Read the following article for more information: 

This topic has gone viral on Facebook, as it has generated 100+ comments in a FB group I'm active in. Let me post some of the comments on this topic:

Maurice Wilkerson-I don't feel sorry for him or men that make dumb and reckless choices when they know what can happen.
Tammie Jones- I mean, can we really hold a stripper accountable for being scandalous? It's a stripper for Pete's sake, are we really expecting her to have integrity? She's not bogus, she's being true to herself, Dr Umar on the other hand.......

Kelli Michel'e-A wise man once told me: "Avoid dealing with people who have nothing to lose. There's no reason for them to not bring you to their level." And he was right.
June 16 at 11:54pm · Unlike · 14

Kelli Michel'e-I believe anyone intent on destroying any movement meant to empower Black people, and in her case, empower her three fatherless sons is bogus. But she's been that...it's definitely not new. Lol He's just reaping exactly what he's sown.

Freedom Reigns-Personally I think some of us put people up on a higher scale, and we expect them to do and act in a certain manner, because some of us can't showcase what we expect leaders to do. And when they don't, some of us get mad and tear them down for the same shit we do.

Wonderful Watson Keep in mind what you say and do can heavily influence those who contribute to your cause (i.e., sponsors).
Yesterday at 5:53am · Unlike · 7

Richard Hudson-If you're an influential person, why would you put yourself in compromising situations? People should know better. Leaders have a bull's-eye on their back; people are waiting for them to slip, and look what he did, he did JUST what people wanted him to do. As a leader, you're held to a higher standard.

Jerome Bolden Hes a man, like everyone else he is flawed, this by no way excuses him using poor discretion but his vision heart and drive is in the right place as far as building this school, human error is just THAT! We gotta quit using what we know we all fall short of. To Jeff Green point its really no crime, hes a man that likes what men likes, now if he was married then you can look at him sideways, he a single man doing what single men do, it just cost him this time.

I would still support his cause because the cause is much bigger than the indiscretion, except us as moronic human beings wanna make the indiscretion > cause
23 hours ago · Like · 1

Richard Hudson-It doesn't change the fact that when you're in the public eye, all eyes are on you. Booty has brought down some of the most powerful men of all time, and still some of these thirsty weak negros don't learn. This chick was looking for a reason to come up, and guess what? She came up at his expense. She had nothing to lose, and she brought this man down.

Wonderful Watson Repeat (loudly)...LACK OF PHALLIC CONTROL IS VERY EXPENSIVE!!! Brothers...How many of you know men personally who lives have been RUINED over what some of you simply refer to as a "PIECE OF ASS"???? When will we as a collective group of human beings burn it into our minds that tapping the wrong piece of ass can cost you more than you bargained for? It's not about whether a crime was committed or not. It's not about being perfect or not. HECK, this isn't even about being human. THIS is about making sure that the most powerful organ that is used is the one between your ears and not the one between your legs.
23 hrs · Unlike · 7

Wonderful Watson This is my last statement. I LIKE booty...a lot!! I like the way it looks and feels. However, I refuse to allow that delicious and succulent booty cost me my marriage, home, livelihood, reputation and dignity. With all of the great things I can say about the booty, it just ain't worth all of that.

K Nichole Jones-So wait.....if this were a prominent and high-profile woman who got caught up with some gigaho, low-life, we would blame her and say she should have known better. There would be no excuses and saying "she's human". But because he is a man, he gets a pass for using poor judgment??? GTHOHWT!!

Vince Carthane Private life does matter when u a public leader or seeking to be a leader because if you can't be loyal to your wife or loyal to what you teach, why should the public trust u to be loyal to them???
21 hrs · Unlike · 4

Freedom Reigns-Esli Lafeuillee today's men aren't the same as they were generations ago, the thinking process, how we used to bond as men, etc. Everything is different. Some men nowadays cant even tell their women how they really feel, without repercussions. I understand exactly where you coming from, but being a Man today isnt how it used to be. They say humans are the smartest species. But are We really?
21 hrs · Unlike · 2

Richard Hudson-As long as some men continue succumbing to their flesh, they will continue to pay in more ways than one. But hey, it's not my business that some men are dumb enough to throw away everything they've worked for over some tail. 

The fact remains that a public figure has no private life. Everything (s)he says and does is up for scrutiny. I swear some of these men are something else; they act like booty is a powerful drug like Molly. Like, they're going to die if they can't get booty.

I'll tell you what: A man has the right to get all the booty he wants, but he must understand it comes with a cost. Baby mama drama.

The original thread had over 100 comments, but these are some of the comments that stood out to me. My belief is that as a public figure, you're under greater scrutiny. What may seem innocent to you, won't be to others, so that's why it's important to watch everything you say and do because there are people waiting for a public figure to foul up, and they swarm in like pirahnas with criticism. I get that no leader is without faults, they're human just like you and me. Leadership is about leading by example, and if a leader can't govern his/her life with discretion, how can (s)he lead others? They can't because they don't have their personal lives in order.

Jun 17, 2015

Realness in 140 Characters

It's time for another installment of Realness in 140 Characters.











Gentle Parenting

  Gentle parenting breeds disrespectful & entitled kids.🤦🏾😎I’m glad I was raised old-school.