Mar 12, 2015

Me Or Her?


Once upon a time, a man broke up with his woman and that was that. Sometimes, he had good reason to leave, other times he left out of haste. It was seldom a man left his woman out of haste because he wanted to make sure he had good reason to leave her. Fast forward to 2015, and you have (wo)men breaking up with their mates and getting back together. When I hear someone say they've been together with such & such person for 8 years on and off, I shake my head in silence because that's bonkers. You break up with someone, then you get back together; rinse and repeat. At some point, you have to make up your mind. If you're going to be with a person, be with them. If you decide to break up with them, do it and stick to your decision. The woman has every right to question her man's feelings for her because he doesn't know who he wants. The first time he and her split, all contact should've been ceased: No e-mail, text, call, NOTHING. Whenever a person decides to leave their mate, unless they have children together, all contact is to cease and desist. 
He needs to make a solid decision on who he wants: His current wife, or his ex. Once he makes a firm decision, he needs to stick to it. If he decides to stay with his current wife, he is to have NO contact with his ex whatsoever. There's nothing wrong with a divorced couple remaining friends, that shows that even though they didn't work out as a couple, they can still be cordial. I can tell by the tone of this letter that he regrets his decision to marry this woman because he wouldn't be keeping tabs on his ex. He married the other woman out of convenience because he doesn't want to be alone. Studies have shown that men are more likely to remarry than women because they need that companionship. It's crazy how a man can get a divorce and 6 months later, he's with another woman. This man is married to his current wife, but he's using the other woman as a rebound in case his current marriage fails; that's why he doesn't want to sever ties with his ex. He wants to know that she'll be there if things don't work out with this woman he's with now.
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Zing!

It's time for another installment of Zing! I got the idea of doing blog zings from my newspaper. As stated before, Zings are like tweets where you speak your mind in 140 characters or less. Here we go with some of my favorite Zings from random Twitter folks.
















This is my favorite:
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Mar 11, 2015

Why Does This Woman Hate Me So Much?


I don't blame many women for not getting involved with single fathers because of baby mama drama. Anytime someone is involved with a single mother or father, the other parent will always be in the picture due to the child(ren). Some people can overlook that, some people can't. That's why I can't fault men for overlooking single mothers, just like I don't fault women for overlooking single fathers. Who wants a ready-made family? I will admit, it takes a special (wo)man to raise someone else's child(ren) as their own, and not too many (wo)men are up for that task. Anyway, this letter is crazy for the simple fact that these two have been warring since grade school. This lady goes out of her way to help this single mother who was a victim of Katrina, and the lady gives her (the letter writer) her butt to kiss. It's actions like hers that give people a reason NOT to want to do for others because some people are very ungrateful. Not only that, this lady went so far as to have the other woman fired from her job, all because she doesn't like her? If logic serves me correctly, disliking someone means you don't give them any power over you. You don't spend energy trying to bring them down to your pathetic level because all that's doing is making you look stupid. Chances are, the other person is keeping it moving while you're envious of him/her for whatever reason. There's not many people I dislike because to be honest, I don't value people enough to dislike them. If I haven't done anything to warrant that person disliking me, that's their problem. I'm going on with my life; I'm not going out of my way to slander their name or bring them down because how does that make me look? I rest my case.
The reason why the baby's mother hates this woman so much is because the man found a better woman than her, and she doesn't like that. She can't stand to see her baby's father happy so she's going to do whatever it takes to destroy someone else's relationship. She wants him back, but he doesn't want her back. Nothing she can do to change his mind because for whatever reason, their relationship soured. If someone doesn't want you, that's their decision. Before she gets into another relationship, I suggest she gets over her hurt or she's going to project her pain onto the next man based on her failed relationship. 


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All In The Family Pt. 2


Are people trying to expedite God's return with this foolishness? They must be since incest is the ultimate form of sexual perversion. Watch some clowns say "You can't tell consenting adults how to live their lives." Anyone who says that crap is condoning incest, so they are just as wrong. I have to tell it like it is, and I don't care who's slighted: Wrong Is Wrong, period. This foursome mess right here is just sick, but we are living in the last days and the Bible speaks of perversion running amok. I don't care how beautiful his fiancee's twin sister is, as a man there are some things you just don't do, and sexing your fiancee's sister is one of them. She's considered family, and that's a major violation in my book. The fiancee is obviously in on the foursome because she condones it. Oh yeah, that's her twin sister and she gave him the green light, but now look what happened; the fiancee is now pregnant. From a medical standpoint, incest is foul because of the high probability of genetic disorders. It would be heartbreaking for the child to suffer because of the adults' foolishness, but we live in a fallen world so unfortunately, kids have to pay for their parents' mistakes. The thought will NEVER...EVER cross my mind to sex one of my female family members because my moral compass won't allow it. This Strawberry Letter gets better because the mother comes over from the DR and plants a wet one right on his lips. That leads me to believe that the mother is in on this family orgy, and if the mom is in on this, you know feelings will be caught. I just don't see this ending well, AT ALL. This Strawberry Letter has trouble, trouble, trouble written all over it. Jesus Take The Wheel? Nah, Jesus Take The Car.


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Mar 10, 2015

Expecting The Most For Least


Those who expect the most, always give the least. We've all met these entitled folks, there's no way around them. You know the ones: They want this, this and that, but are bringing only crumbs to the table. There's two terms for that: Selfish and entitled, both of which are not a good look for anyone. Common sense should say whatever you require, you bring to the table or you work on bringing it to the table. I used to be very generous; I used to help folks without hesitation until I woke up and realize I was being used. Once I realized I was being used, I withdrew my hand, and the folks had the nerve to get upset because I wouldn't let them use me. They must think I'm supposed to care that they're in their feelings because I wouldn't let folks take advantage of me, but I don't. Over time, I learned to put myself first and since I've done that, I've felt so much better. Now, I help those that God lays on my heart to help. Every now & then, I'll feel moved to offer assistance to someone who needs it, but unless I'm led to help someone, I don't help them or I limit the extent of my help. In my opinion, it's ok to expect the most if you're bringing the most. It's a cold world & there are people that are looking for handouts; they prey on generous folks because 9 times out of 10, the generous person is quick to assist them in whatever way possible. There are those who expect the most, who bring the most, and there are those who have great expectations, but bring the least. Which category are you?
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Mar 9, 2015

I Smell A Rat


Saturday's Sweetie Pie's episode was titled I Smell A Rat. Ms. Robbie wasn't too keen on Tim hiring Ma'ri as District Manager of Sweetie Pie's, and she let him know it. First off, Ma'ri has a banking background so her corporate background doesn't mesh well with Sweetie Pie's down to earth, family atmosphere. Ma'ri comes in and tries to throw her weight around, and the employees let her know she doesn't run nothing here. Tim comes up with an idea to bring the staff together, so he has the staff and management learn each other's jobs. He figures if the staff and management learn each other's jobs, that will bring them together, and it blew up in his face because both sides were at each other's heads. Staff feels that management should know the ins & outs of the company, and I agree. If you're going to be a manager, you're supposed to know the ins & outs of your company: How to do each employee's jobs, operations, accounting/payroll, etc. Ma'ri's the kind of boss that doesn't lead by example. The employees know she has attitude so they respond in kind. Danielle & Ma'ri haven't liked each other since Day 1, so they clashed the most.
When you own your own business, your trust level is zero to none. This is your livelihood you're talking about, and you can't take chances on hiring the wrong person. $200 comes up missing and Tim confronts Ma'ri on the missing money. She denies she took it, so Tim suspends her for 2 weeks until he gets to the bottom of it. Personally, I believe Ma'ri took the money because she brings negative energy to Sweetie Pie's. If someone brings negative energy, it's a matter of time before they try to bring your business down. Ma'ri thought Tim wasn't checking behind her, but she learned today. When Ms.Robbie is absent, Tim is in place making sure business affairs are straight. Tim won't let anything or anyone destroy the business. Even when employees think management isn't watching, they are. Most times, management is watching via surveillance. Video footage tells them all they need to know about who's doing slimy stuff. Because Danielle and Ma'ri are battling, I also think Danielle set Ma'ri up to get fired. Danielle could've taken the $200 and framed Ma'ri so she can get Ma'ri out of Sweetie Pie's.
If Ma'ri is let go, Danielle will earn major points with her colleagues because she stopped at nothing to rid Sweetie Pie's of the cancer that is Ma'ri. Then again, as much as I dislike Ma'ri, I don't condone framing people. It's tough to find a job in today's economy, and the last thing anyone needs is someone setting them up because they don't like them. Ms. Robbie was spot on about Ma'ri, and it was a matter of time before the truth came to light. One thing about Ms.Robbie: You can't play her because she knows the game. Her discernment was on point from Day 1. Hopefully, Tim will do what's best for business and can Ma'ri. The reason Tim hired Ma'ri was because they're friends. Most people mean well by hiring their friends, but in business, you're trying to make profits and sometimes your friends can be detrimental.
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Mar 8, 2015

Newton's Law Of Thermodynamics: Energy Transfer

One of Sir Isaac Newton's Laws Of Thermodynamics is about the transfer of negative energy. The transference of energy states, "Energy is not lost or destroyed, it is transferred from one party to the next." I heard this quote in Two Can Play That Game starring Vivica Fox, Anthony Anderson and Morris Chestnut. The concept of the movie is about the battles of being in a relationship. When two people come together in a relationship, each person has a vision for how they want the relationship to work. Anytime you're involved with someone, you're going to clash because of different mindsets; one person wants the relationship to work this way, the other wants the relationship to work their way. Unless some people want cookie cutters of themselves in the opposite sex, it's foolish to think that couples are going to be on the same page all the time. Keith & Shante' (Morris Chestnut & Vivica A. Fox) were going through a rough patch in their relationship, and they decided to separate. The separation was to allow them time to be apart, to think about whether the relationship was worth saving. One scene showed them having a horrible fight, and Keith showed up to Shante's home. They were all over each other at first until something happened: Keith started a fight with his woman for no reason, and once he won the argument, he left with a smile on his face because he drew Shante' into his world. Keith's negative energy rubbed off on Shante, and she had no comeback. From a relationship standpoint, that's what the transfer of negative energy is about; drawing someone into your world. The problem with that is if you're not careful, their negative energy can rub off on you if you allow it.




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