Boaz Has Passed You By

When I hear a woman say she's waiting on her Boaz, I giggle so hard inside because many women are clueless about the Biblical story of Boaz. Many women assume their Boaz is going to appear out of thin air, but that's not the case. These women don't realize that Ruth positioned herself to be found. She didn't sit on her behind waiting for Boaz to appear, Ruth did the work to put herself in a place where Boaz could find her. Once Ruth found her Boaz, the rest was history. Today's Christian woman has it twisted because they've bought into the same feminist mindset that a man is supposed to wait on them hand & foot, while she reaps the benefit. These are the same women that call themselves Proverbs 31 women. Last time I checked, being a Proverbs 31 woman requires work, and some women today do not want to do the work required to attract their Boaz. They think their looks will get them by, and they will on a shallow man. The Bible says that man looks at the outward, but God looks at the heart. A man of character is going to examine a woman's heart before choosing her as a mate. He realizes that looks can be deceiving. Some of the most attractive women have horrible character (the same goes for men). I have no problems with a woman wanting her Boaz if she's of right character. Those women have every right to desire a Boaz because she's worked on herself enough to where a good man will seek her out. I'm talking about the ratchet women. Those are the types that are quick to say "I'm looking for my Boaz" Well, what are YOU doing to position yourself to be sought? I'll wait.

Do women understand the term HELPmate?

Do women understand what a Helpmate is? The term helpmate is a supporter, someone who HELPS their spouse reach their full potential. Some Christian women have been infected with the same worldly mindset about relationships. Many Christian women are no different than secular women when it comes to their approach in finding a mate. They believe the man is supposed to do all the providing, protecting, etc. True, a man's job is to provide and protect, but a wife is his helper. That means she's holding the house down while he's out working. Too many Christian women want to sit on their behinds and watch Lifetime movies while the children fend for themselves. The husband comes home to find that nothing's done. No hot meal, clean house, etc. What's hilarious is that some Christian women have the audacity to call themselves Proverbs 31 women. A Proverbs 31 woman brings out the best in her man. That requires WORK.

I can't take too many Christian women seriously when they say they're waiting on their Boaz.  "I'm patiently waiting on my Boaz" Boaz has passed you by honey. Ruth positioned herself to be found by Boaz, she didn't sit on her behind and wait for Boaz to find her. She was aesthetically pleasing, and of good moral character. Ruth qualified herself to be found. American women have no concept of being a helper, and I can't blame them for it. Their fathers are at fault for powdering their behinds. These dads raise their girls to be entitled princesses; they don't have to pull their weight in a relationship, a real man will give her everything she wants, and so on. Some of these women grow up expecting a man to cater to them, but some women forget about his upbringing. His mother schooled him to steer clear of women that will take advantage of him. She's wondering why no man is approaching her: Well, men can sense trouble and prefer not to deal with it.

Relationship Contradictions

WOMAN A: Congratulations, girl, you done finally got yourself a good man.

WOMAN B: Oh thanks, he's great.

WOMAN A: So when you and Brian going out?

WOMAN B: Brian, oh no, I'm with another guy.

WOMAN A: Another guy?  What's his name?

WOMAN B: He's known by his peeps as "Butter".

WOMAN A: Oh, does Butter have a job?

WOMAN B: Uh, not exactly, but you usually can find him near 41st and Linbrook.

WOMAN A: OK, so he has a business there?

WOMAN B: Uh, I suppose you could call it that.

WOMAN A: What does he do?

WOMAN B: He's a hustler

WOMAN A: Whatchu mean?

WOMAN B: He sells pills, weed, and zanex.  He make a lot of money though.  He only got caught twice.  He should be OK this time.

WOMAN A: So you turned down Brian for a man who does illegal things?

WOMAN B: It's not that bad, it's not like he's hurting or killing anyone.

WOMAN A: You done fucked up, girl.

WOMAN B: You can't judge him.  Only God can do it.  Anybody can be a dope dealer, even lawyers and mechanics.

Dumb-ass women will use something that I like to refer to as "bitch logic".  They will try to justify their dumb-ass choices by making excuse, comparing them to other bad choices, and............you guessed it, the good ole phrase of "don't judge".

The above conversation was posted in a Facebook group I'm in, and it was too good not to share. Excuse the expletives, but he's right. Some women want a contradiction for a man. He's gotta be smart, but have thug swag. He must be 6'4 with a six pack, and so on. Ladies need to make up their minds. Either you wantt this or that.

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Another confused woman. She's wondering why her man hasn't left his wife and committed exclusive to her. Newsflash: Just because a man cheats on his wife, doesn't mean he's going to leave her. Matter of fact, most cheating men don't leave their wives because many cheaters are very conniving so their mates won't find out. What's all this love craziness she's talking? He doesn't love her. What he's doing to his wife, he will do to her. That's called the law of reciprocity. I will never understand why some people can't find their own (wo)man. Why you have to take what belongs to someone else? I'll tell you why, because most people aren't confident enough to pull an unattached person. Going further, she really didn't "take" him from his wife, he voluntarily agreed to cheat with this hussy. I'm getting tired of these cheaters; if he's not happy with his wife, LEAVE! He's making himself look like a coward by going behind his woman's back with this other woman.

"I love him, but I'm too old for this stuff" She thinks I fell off the turnip truck, because I'm not buying this garbage. She doesn't love him, and he doesn't love her. She's not too old to mess around with a married man, but all of a sudden she's "too old for the games". When you're on the receiving end of someone's deceit, it's not so fun. Strawberry letters like this are why people need to be very careful who they cheat with. All cheaters start off showing you love, then once time goes on, some of them ween themselves away and start trying to make things right with their spouse. The problem is that once infidelity has happened, trust is hard to regain. In many cases, trust can never be restored. Obviously, he must not love this woman too much if he's still keeping in touch with his wife. She knows what to do, walk away and never look back. There might be a small chance of reconcilation between this man and his soon-to-be ex-wife.

Is A Man Within His Right?

Is A Man Within His Right to get full custody of his children if he feels the mother is unfit? In a perfect world, yes. Given the child custody system is favored towards mothers, it's a given that a father is going to have a hard time proving the mother to be an unfit parent, even if he has a good case. Even though there have been instances where fathers have won full custody of their child(ren), the overwhelming majority of child support rulings go to the mother, because most of the time, the father isn't doing his job. I believe it shouldn't take going to court to get a (wo)man to do their job, that's bananas. When women feel hurt, they can be very nasty. That's why men need to be very careful who they lay down with. You truly don't know someone as well as you think. You can be with a person for years, and NOT truly know them. People aren't going to tell you their bad side, they're only going to tell you their good side because they don't want to run you away. Because many men don't take the time to examine a woman's character, they get caught up in her looks. They see a fine, shapely woman and get to losing their minds. I hate to see good brothers dragged into nasty custody battles because contrary to what society portrays, there are fathers who look after their children, but their nasty mother will not allow the child(ren) to see their father. The mother poisons the child(ren)'s minds into believing that daddy is no good. Unless the child is of age, that child will believe the lies of their mother because she was the one who was there for them since Day 1. Some men need to pray before they lay. If he can't see her as a wife, he shouldn't make her a mother. That will solve many of these custody battles.

Back Then You Didn't Want Me, Now I'm Hot, You're All On Me

Excuse the expletives, but this was too good NOT to share. This is from Selector Jah:

A LOT of women STAY thirsting over ''ain't shit'' men all day. Loser types who do nothing but party, get high and drunk, sleep all day and CHASE THE NEXT PIECE OF AVAILABLE ASS. They STAY chasing these types of men, while passing up a DECENT man who is actually about something and trying to be productive, calling him ''lame'', ''boring'', ''loser'' or 'gay''.
That IS of course UNTIL the ''lame'' or ''loser'' dude gets RICH from all his endeavors, sacrifice and hard work. Suddenly when he is rich, he is NOT so ''lame'' anymore and after ALL the years of rejecting him for loser, ain't shit men, he is suddenly a great candidate for a long term relationship.

 

This brother is on point. It's a common occurrence between many men & women. Woman rejected guy who approached her in high school, and while he may be hurt, he doesn't show it. Instead, he uses her rejection to get himself together & years later: He's successful, debt-free, physically fit, etc. That same woman who rejected him is all of a sudden checking for him. He tells her: I was the same guy who was checking for you in high school, and you rejected me. Thank you for the rejection because now, I have the last laugh. Look at you, then look at me. Doesn't feel so good to be on the opposite end of rejection does it? There's nothing wrong with wanting someone with their stuff together, that's what you should desire. No one has time to carry someone in a relationship, but...if you see someone struggling that could use some assistance, give them a push. More often than not, they're not looking for a handout, they just need a little help from time to time. None of us were born having our stuff together; everyone had to work for theirs (even those who were born with silver spoons in their mouths).

It's borderline criminal that some women actually call a guy lame or boring because he's ambitious. He has a vision for his life and isn't concerned with chasing after booty that every other man has ran through. Little do people realize that those ambitious men that some women clown, are going to be leaders someday. Like I stated in a previous blog, a woman loses the right to desire a good man after she rejects him for that bad boy. If anything, the rejected man should be GLAD she rejected him. She did him a favor because that's less drama he has to deal with. He can continue focusing on building his empire and hopefully a sensible woman will show interest in him. The problem is, sensible women are oftentimes influenced by feminist ideologies, so you even have to be wary of some women who present themselves as sensible. I will always root for the underdog: That guy who was rejected by girls in high school for being the nerd; being focused on building his empire because I know in the end, he'll have the last laugh, and the same women who didn't give him the time of day, will be the same ones wanting a good man to do right by her.

 

 



Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Ray Charles can see what she should do, why can't she? Her man's cousin is contributing financially, so the cousin feels he has a license to do as he pleases, not realizing that THEY took him in. Otherwise, he probably has nowhere else to go. That said, he's depressed at his situation. He didn't ask to be shot, but how long can someone stay depressed before they need to tighten up? That's crazy. The cousin needs to watch When The Game Stands Tall, and he'll learn a valuable lesson: It's not about falling, it's how you get up that matters. In short, he needs to man up and keep it moving. True, they need the cousin's money, but what is the husband doing to bring in income? Is he employed, unemployed or underemployed? There's too many details left out, but I will say this: The husband needs to tell his cousin to get it together or he has to go, period. It's taking a toll on their relationship, and the house smells like boonk and Hennessy. When you get tired, really tired of a situation, you'll move heaven and earth to change it. She just needs to get so upset that she gives her husband an ultimatum: Either he tells his cousin to help pull his weight, or he has to go. The husband may be upset, but who cares. The husband allowed his cousin to disrespect his home, so he should be the one to tell his cousin what's up. The husband's dead giveaway: His statement about needing the money his cousin's check brings in. Either the husband needs to come up with another hustle, or something. This situation is driving too much of a wedge in this relationship. This whole situation can be prevented by setting boundaries.