Men, Stop Complaining

Every Facebook I read about men going in on women has one common denominator: Women are criticized for wanting bad boys. This is my take: I care nothing about women wanting bad boys, that's their decision. If she wants to be mistreated, who am I to stand in her way? She needs to understand that that bad boy is the one that'll leave her crying & hurt, then she'll want a good man to take away her pain. The best way to avoid hurt is NOT to subject yourself to it.  Men need to stop complaining about women who want bad boys. I know they mean well, but women are grown just like men. They want what they want, even if some women sound crazy for wanting a bad boy. Maybe these women believe they can reform him, who knows? Some bad boys are moved to change because of a good woman, others stay true to their nature; it depends on how thorough the woman is. If a man truly wants to change, he will heed his woman's help, but a bad boy must want to change.

The way I see it: A woman has the right to want a thug. In wanting a thug, she cannot expect a stand-up man to heal her hurt because she made poor choices in men. Some women are good for that: Date bad boys, and after they get hurt, all of a sudden they want a good man that'll love her no matter what hell she puts him through. That's not my business though. Men should stop complaining about women dating thuggish men. Leave them to their devices, and keep handling business like a man is supposed to. I read too many Facebook rants from men complaining about how they're a good man and why women choose thugs over them. These men need to realize that she's doing them a favor. By choosing a thug, she has disqualified herself from eligible men. As crazy as it sounds, many women want to be mistreated. They enjoy being smacked upside the head, mistreated and so on. In conclusion, men should look at it this way: By choosing a bad boy, that's a major bullet he dodged.

So keep calm, and let these women date thugs. When Big Nate goes upside her head, she gonna learn.

Public Service Announcement

For everyone who feels that privacy goes out the window just because you're in a relationship: Cut that mess out, seriously. Your smartphone or IPhone isn't off-limits just because you're involved with someone. It has nothing to do with hiding anything, it's all about privacy. Your mate doesn't need to know every nook & cranny of what you're doing. It's not possible to keep tabs on your mate 24-7 unless you're unemployed, and even then they'll still do what they want. When you reach a point where you have to go through your (wo)man's phone, it's time to end that relationship. No one has time to be checking text messages, screening calls, going through Facebook and Twitter conversations, etc. I don't have time for that. If I'm doing what I'm supposed to do to keep a smile on my woman's face, and she's still not happy, there's the door. I'm not going to play detective to figure out what's wrong with her, I'm done. A (wo)man shouldn't have to play detective just to find out if their (wo)man is cheating. If you think (s)he's cheating, most likely they are. Either they don't care if you find out, or they're covering their tracks. The point is: You can give someone 1000 reasons to smile, but some people will never be satisfied. It's best to leave those toxic people alone because all they're going to do is drag you down with them. Some relationships are doomed from the beginning, but the people stay because one or both parties feel they don't deserve better. Time out for all that Sherlock Homes investigation type stuff in relationships. If you can't trust your (wo)man, you have no business being with them. That's All For Today.

Sip & See

Sip & See must be another term for gossiping, at least that's what I gathered from a previous Preachers Of L.A. episode. The first ladies got together for sipping and seeing what's going on with who. As usual, Loretta and Bishop Jones relationship was the central topic. If you're the topic of discussion for whatever reason, that means you're popular. The irony is that the First Ladies had it out for Loretta since day 1. They have issue(s) with Bishop Jones and Loretta's relationship. Just because the other 1st ladies are married, that doesn't mean every woman desires marriage. You have some people that are better off as friends, and that's fine. Not everyone is cut out for marriage, and given the divorce rate, I see why. Loretta shut that down quick. In a roundabout way, she told the rest of those meddling hens to fall back. What she and Bishop Jones do is their business, although I will say this: When did a man and woman that's supposedly friends, start kissing? When Bishop Jones and Loretta greeted each other last night (I didn't see much of last night's Preachers of LA because I fell asleep), they smooched for a second and went on their way. Kissing is an intimate act between a committed couple. I never knew friendship between a man & woman involved kissing, but I digress. Being a Bishop is a high profile job, and everything you do is analyzed to the T: Who you're with, what you're doing, and so on. Because Bishop Jones, Ron Gibson, Wayne, Jay, Deitrick and others are in the spotlight, they travel in the same circles so the slightest situation will get around. I said all that to say this: Sip & See is just another fancy term for getting involved in someone's business.

When The Game Stands Tall

Of all the football movies I've seen, When The Game Stands Tall is by far the best one yet. It's about Bob Ladoceur, De La Salle high school football coach in New Orleans who takes his team to unprecedented heights. Under his coaching, his team went on set a record of 151 wins before losing to Long Beach Poly. Anyone who follows sports knows that it's tough to win, let alone put together a win streak. 151 wins is an amazing feat, one that has yet to be broken. What I liked about this movie is that Coach Ladoceur wasn't just a coach, he was a mentor & friend to many of those boys. For some, he was the only father figure they knew. He had those boys eat dinner with him and spend time with him off the field, and I respect that. For a coach to go out of his way to let his players into his personal life is awesome, and how can one not respect that? This wasn't just a regular football movie, the theme was about the coach trying to instill character & brotherhood in his players.

You could see the genuine love those players had for each other. Many of them were friends and grew up playing football together in childhood prior to joining De La Salle's high school football squad. The players even hung together off the field. When one person struggled, the whole team struggled. When one person won, the entire team won. You don't see that kind of bond nowadays. For the most part, people are out for self. There were some tense moments in the movie, such as Ryan's father. Ryan's father was a salesman, and all he was worried about was the streak. Every game he went to, it was streak this, streak that, streak, streak, streak. Ryan's father only cared about his son when he was winning, but when the team lost, all that changed. Ryan was the only one that had sense between him and his father, and to me that's sad. A father is wiser than his son, but sometimes it's the other way around. Ryan's father wasn't saved, but Ryan was.

Moments like Ryan's father putting pressure on Ryan to keep winning are all too common. There are parents who live their sports dreams through their child(ren). The parent sees athletic greatness in their child, so they push their child as hard as possible so they can be the best. Some children respond well to that, others don't. Sadly, some parents of athletic children love their children when they're winning. When the child's team starts losing, here comes the verbal abuse: You suck, what are you doing, get off the field, and so on. At the very end of the movie, when the team was up by 4 touchdowns, and Ryan was 1 TD away from breaking the school record, he came to his senses: He decided to spend the last few minute paying respects to his coach. The whole team, and eventually the crowd followed suit. The premise behind that tribute is that sometimes, winning isn't everything.

In conclusion, it's not about winning, but how you recover from a loss that defines you. That's the point of the movie.



Police Encounters: By Mr.EnigmaticOpinion

 

There was recently another "death by cop" of another black man in Missouri. Typical scenario played out in this case as it seemingly does in most of them. Cops get out of car aggressively barking orders, and black guy acts like they have bananas instead of guns pointed at him. Black man ends up dead. I'm personally tired of hearing about you Negros dying when most of you can avoid it. I'm out of outrage. You Negros continue to lack the ability to avoid interactions with them, or do it with intelligence so that you can walk away alive when you do. Cops don't relate to you. The fact is that typically the majority of police forces are made up of white males. White males who neither relate to black males or the communities you live in. Those same white males are sent to patrol your neighborhoods that you have turned into nightmares. Neighborhoods in which black males kill each other at the rate of 54% of all homicides in this country. Neighborhoods infested with drugs and is high in every category of crime imaginable. Neighborhoods that promotes "stop snitchin" as a way of dealing with how you victimize each other instead of promoting peace and respect for your neighbors property and personal space. This is the only thing those white cops actually do know about you.

Each time another black male is killed, the typical questions arise. Why didn't they taser him? And revelations of "they didn't have to kill him" Both points as redundant as they are moot. Yes they could have used a taser on him. No they didn't have to kill him. But they don't use tasers, and they do kill them. Let's start dealing with reality for a moment bastard nation. You keep expecting white men who don't relate to you, who are not your neighbors, to take you into consideration. When they are fully aware of how you treat your own kind. This is just another form of your welfare mentality, believing that others should feel responsible for you more than you are for yourselves. They don't and they never will.

So what do we do? The smart thing to do would be to reduce your own crime in your own neighborhoods. To make cops virtually obsolete in your black communities, while turning your own neighborhoods and homes into peaceful sanctuaries. Less crime equals less cops needed...that's how it works. No city will pay for a bunch of cops who aren't needed. Unfortunately, the black race has its Nigga class, and the Nigga class neither wants or craves peaceful domains for themselves or other black people. The Nigga class feasts on chaos, dysfunction, disrespect and anarchy. With the black race harboring, embracing and even protecting its sacred cow (the Nigga class), your communities will never have peace. Your neighborhoods will always be crime infested, so your neighborhoods will always be heavily policed. If the bastard nation refuses to create a safe haven for its own people, then I suggest you deal with cops as they are, instead of dealing with them as you think they should be. They are not using tasers, they are using guns. They could subdue you without killing you, but the fact is they are killing you. This is reality. What you think they should do means nothing. They don't exist to protect and serve you. They exist to control and contain you in your little corner of hell you call a hood, your ghettos. They don't relate to you, nor do they want to.



Preachers Of LA Tweets

I'm going to share some Preachers of LA tweets regarding Bishop Jones and Loretta's relationship. Here goes:

@TamiraDenaee: Ok, first Bishop Jones says Loretta was his friend, then his gf, his friend again, now his gf again? Which is it? #PreachersOfLA

@iamsharonyvette: @TamiraDenaee Too funny. Either way girlfriend is not a legally recognized title.  She has no power in that 'relationship'.

@Expensivejjewel: STOP inviting Loretta to events as if she is a First Lady & until she ups her standards! #PreachersOfLA

@ItsKevinBond: The body of Christ has a problem handling Confrontations .... Loretta is too truthful for most! I LOVE HER!!!  #PreachersOfLA

@dateandwait: Dear Loretta-  Bishop or not, he needs to commit or quit. #KeepItMoving #PreachersOfLA

@kLockitt7: They need to leave Bishop and Loretta alone.. they will move to their next level in their OWN time!! #PreachersOfLA

@JsonFredericks: Noel & Loretta are more private then Jay & Beyoncé! Problem is we all know the real #PreachersOfLA

@ATLREPPA: #PreachersOfLA So Loretta is still Bishop Noel Side Piece ? Lol she aint been upgraded yet?

This is the realest tweet out of all of these: @Mmoorejr: If Loretta Doesn't do a conference next spring for "Girlfriends In Waiting"...shes playin the game all wrong! LOL. #PreachersOfLA

Preachers of LA: Mind Your Business

Yesterday evening was the Season 2 premiere of Preachers of L.A. According to previews, Season 2 is going to be a lot more real. While ministering, there will be real moments. Last night's episode started off with a bang. Anyone who has followed the show since it's inception knows that Bishop Noel Jones and Loretta have been the topic of discussion. Bishop Jones and Loretta have been friends for 16 years, and supposedly they're carrying on like a married couple. Ron Gibson feels they should get married since they act like a married couple. Here's the catch: Bishop Jones has told Loretta that he has no intention of getting married, but she's looking for more. From what I've watched of Loretta on the show, she's a stand-up woman. She has her own bistro that Noel helped get off the ground, and they've been close since then. Their relationship has grown, so I think they should get married, but that's not my call.

Bishop Ron Gibson is my favorite preacher on the show, and he stays true to who he is. He's taken no shorts in his opposition towards Bishop Jones and Loretta's relationship. My question is: Why is Bishop Gibson so concerned about Loretta and Noel's relationship? While I feel Bishop Jones & Loretta should get married, what if they're not ready? Bishop Jones has been married before, and that ended in divorce so he doesn't want to make that same mistake again, which I can understand. Loretta has a decision to make: She can be content with her friendship with Noel, or she can give him an ultimatum: Marry me, or I'm gone. If a woman has shown herself worthy of a good man, and he's stalling, sometimes she has to make him commit. I think the reason why Noel and Loretta's relationship has drawn criticism from Bishop Gibson is that he thinks they're sinning by how they carry on like a married couple, even though they're not married.

I never thought I'd see Loretta go in, but even the most chill people have their limits. Nobody likes their business put on blast, and Loretta proved that last night. When Lady Lavette (Bishop Gibson's wife) called out Loretta, Loretta checked her. Loretta was like "It's none of anyone's business how Bishop Jones and I conduct ourselves. We're content with our relationship as is." She had had enough of Bishop Gibson and Lavette's meddling, and she shut it down. Next week's episode, she sets Bishop Gibson straight. I won't miss that for nothing.