Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Another confused woman. She's wondering why her man hasn't left his wife and committed exclusive to her. Newsflash: Just because a man cheats on his wife, doesn't mean he's going to leave her. Matter of fact, most cheating men don't leave their wives because many cheaters are very conniving so their mates won't find out. What's all this love craziness she's talking? He doesn't love her. What he's doing to his wife, he will do to her. That's called the law of reciprocity. I will never understand why some people can't find their own (wo)man. Why you have to take what belongs to someone else? I'll tell you why, because most people aren't confident enough to pull an unattached person. Going further, she really didn't "take" him from his wife, he voluntarily agreed to cheat with this hussy. I'm getting tired of these cheaters; if he's not happy with his wife, LEAVE! He's making himself look like a coward by going behind his woman's back with this other woman.

"I love him, but I'm too old for this stuff" She thinks I fell off the turnip truck, because I'm not buying this garbage. She doesn't love him, and he doesn't love her. She's not too old to mess around with a married man, but all of a sudden she's "too old for the games". When you're on the receiving end of someone's deceit, it's not so fun. Strawberry letters like this are why people need to be very careful who they cheat with. All cheaters start off showing you love, then once time goes on, some of them ween themselves away and start trying to make things right with their spouse. The problem is that once infidelity has happened, trust is hard to regain. In many cases, trust can never be restored. Obviously, he must not love this woman too much if he's still keeping in touch with his wife. She knows what to do, walk away and never look back. There might be a small chance of reconcilation between this man and his soon-to-be ex-wife.

Is A Man Within His Right?

Is A Man Within His Right to get full custody of his children if he feels the mother is unfit? In a perfect world, yes. Given the child custody system is favored towards mothers, it's a given that a father is going to have a hard time proving the mother to be an unfit parent, even if he has a good case. Even though there have been instances where fathers have won full custody of their child(ren), the overwhelming majority of child support rulings go to the mother, because most of the time, the father isn't doing his job. I believe it shouldn't take going to court to get a (wo)man to do their job, that's bananas. When women feel hurt, they can be very nasty. That's why men need to be very careful who they lay down with. You truly don't know someone as well as you think. You can be with a person for years, and NOT truly know them. People aren't going to tell you their bad side, they're only going to tell you their good side because they don't want to run you away. Because many men don't take the time to examine a woman's character, they get caught up in her looks. They see a fine, shapely woman and get to losing their minds. I hate to see good brothers dragged into nasty custody battles because contrary to what society portrays, there are fathers who look after their children, but their nasty mother will not allow the child(ren) to see their father. The mother poisons the child(ren)'s minds into believing that daddy is no good. Unless the child is of age, that child will believe the lies of their mother because she was the one who was there for them since Day 1. Some men need to pray before they lay. If he can't see her as a wife, he shouldn't make her a mother. That will solve many of these custody battles.

Back Then You Didn't Want Me, Now I'm Hot, You're All On Me

Excuse the expletives, but this was too good NOT to share. This is from Selector Jah:

A LOT of women STAY thirsting over ''ain't shit'' men all day. Loser types who do nothing but party, get high and drunk, sleep all day and CHASE THE NEXT PIECE OF AVAILABLE ASS. They STAY chasing these types of men, while passing up a DECENT man who is actually about something and trying to be productive, calling him ''lame'', ''boring'', ''loser'' or 'gay''.
That IS of course UNTIL the ''lame'' or ''loser'' dude gets RICH from all his endeavors, sacrifice and hard work. Suddenly when he is rich, he is NOT so ''lame'' anymore and after ALL the years of rejecting him for loser, ain't shit men, he is suddenly a great candidate for a long term relationship.

 

This brother is on point. It's a common occurrence between many men & women. Woman rejected guy who approached her in high school, and while he may be hurt, he doesn't show it. Instead, he uses her rejection to get himself together & years later: He's successful, debt-free, physically fit, etc. That same woman who rejected him is all of a sudden checking for him. He tells her: I was the same guy who was checking for you in high school, and you rejected me. Thank you for the rejection because now, I have the last laugh. Look at you, then look at me. Doesn't feel so good to be on the opposite end of rejection does it? There's nothing wrong with wanting someone with their stuff together, that's what you should desire. No one has time to carry someone in a relationship, but...if you see someone struggling that could use some assistance, give them a push. More often than not, they're not looking for a handout, they just need a little help from time to time. None of us were born having our stuff together; everyone had to work for theirs (even those who were born with silver spoons in their mouths).

It's borderline criminal that some women actually call a guy lame or boring because he's ambitious. He has a vision for his life and isn't concerned with chasing after booty that every other man has ran through. Little do people realize that those ambitious men that some women clown, are going to be leaders someday. Like I stated in a previous blog, a woman loses the right to desire a good man after she rejects him for that bad boy. If anything, the rejected man should be GLAD she rejected him. She did him a favor because that's less drama he has to deal with. He can continue focusing on building his empire and hopefully a sensible woman will show interest in him. The problem is, sensible women are oftentimes influenced by feminist ideologies, so you even have to be wary of some women who present themselves as sensible. I will always root for the underdog: That guy who was rejected by girls in high school for being the nerd; being focused on building his empire because I know in the end, he'll have the last laugh, and the same women who didn't give him the time of day, will be the same ones wanting a good man to do right by her.

 

 



Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Ray Charles can see what she should do, why can't she? Her man's cousin is contributing financially, so the cousin feels he has a license to do as he pleases, not realizing that THEY took him in. Otherwise, he probably has nowhere else to go. That said, he's depressed at his situation. He didn't ask to be shot, but how long can someone stay depressed before they need to tighten up? That's crazy. The cousin needs to watch When The Game Stands Tall, and he'll learn a valuable lesson: It's not about falling, it's how you get up that matters. In short, he needs to man up and keep it moving. True, they need the cousin's money, but what is the husband doing to bring in income? Is he employed, unemployed or underemployed? There's too many details left out, but I will say this: The husband needs to tell his cousin to get it together or he has to go, period. It's taking a toll on their relationship, and the house smells like boonk and Hennessy. When you get tired, really tired of a situation, you'll move heaven and earth to change it. She just needs to get so upset that she gives her husband an ultimatum: Either he tells his cousin to help pull his weight, or he has to go. The husband may be upset, but who cares. The husband allowed his cousin to disrespect his home, so he should be the one to tell his cousin what's up. The husband's dead giveaway: His statement about needing the money his cousin's check brings in. Either the husband needs to come up with another hustle, or something. This situation is driving too much of a wedge in this relationship. This whole situation can be prevented by setting boundaries.

Men, Stop Complaining

Every Facebook I read about men going in on women has one common denominator: Women are criticized for wanting bad boys. This is my take: I care nothing about women wanting bad boys, that's their decision. If she wants to be mistreated, who am I to stand in her way? She needs to understand that that bad boy is the one that'll leave her crying & hurt, then she'll want a good man to take away her pain. The best way to avoid hurt is NOT to subject yourself to it.  Men need to stop complaining about women who want bad boys. I know they mean well, but women are grown just like men. They want what they want, even if some women sound crazy for wanting a bad boy. Maybe these women believe they can reform him, who knows? Some bad boys are moved to change because of a good woman, others stay true to their nature; it depends on how thorough the woman is. If a man truly wants to change, he will heed his woman's help, but a bad boy must want to change.

The way I see it: A woman has the right to want a thug. In wanting a thug, she cannot expect a stand-up man to heal her hurt because she made poor choices in men. Some women are good for that: Date bad boys, and after they get hurt, all of a sudden they want a good man that'll love her no matter what hell she puts him through. That's not my business though. Men should stop complaining about women dating thuggish men. Leave them to their devices, and keep handling business like a man is supposed to. I read too many Facebook rants from men complaining about how they're a good man and why women choose thugs over them. These men need to realize that she's doing them a favor. By choosing a thug, she has disqualified herself from eligible men. As crazy as it sounds, many women want to be mistreated. They enjoy being smacked upside the head, mistreated and so on. In conclusion, men should look at it this way: By choosing a bad boy, that's a major bullet he dodged.

So keep calm, and let these women date thugs. When Big Nate goes upside her head, she gonna learn.

Public Service Announcement

For everyone who feels that privacy goes out the window just because you're in a relationship: Cut that mess out, seriously. Your smartphone or IPhone isn't off-limits just because you're involved with someone. It has nothing to do with hiding anything, it's all about privacy. Your mate doesn't need to know every nook & cranny of what you're doing. It's not possible to keep tabs on your mate 24-7 unless you're unemployed, and even then they'll still do what they want. When you reach a point where you have to go through your (wo)man's phone, it's time to end that relationship. No one has time to be checking text messages, screening calls, going through Facebook and Twitter conversations, etc. I don't have time for that. If I'm doing what I'm supposed to do to keep a smile on my woman's face, and she's still not happy, there's the door. I'm not going to play detective to figure out what's wrong with her, I'm done. A (wo)man shouldn't have to play detective just to find out if their (wo)man is cheating. If you think (s)he's cheating, most likely they are. Either they don't care if you find out, or they're covering their tracks. The point is: You can give someone 1000 reasons to smile, but some people will never be satisfied. It's best to leave those toxic people alone because all they're going to do is drag you down with them. Some relationships are doomed from the beginning, but the people stay because one or both parties feel they don't deserve better. Time out for all that Sherlock Homes investigation type stuff in relationships. If you can't trust your (wo)man, you have no business being with them. That's All For Today.

Sip & See

Sip & See must be another term for gossiping, at least that's what I gathered from a previous Preachers Of L.A. episode. The first ladies got together for sipping and seeing what's going on with who. As usual, Loretta and Bishop Jones relationship was the central topic. If you're the topic of discussion for whatever reason, that means you're popular. The irony is that the First Ladies had it out for Loretta since day 1. They have issue(s) with Bishop Jones and Loretta's relationship. Just because the other 1st ladies are married, that doesn't mean every woman desires marriage. You have some people that are better off as friends, and that's fine. Not everyone is cut out for marriage, and given the divorce rate, I see why. Loretta shut that down quick. In a roundabout way, she told the rest of those meddling hens to fall back. What she and Bishop Jones do is their business, although I will say this: When did a man and woman that's supposedly friends, start kissing? When Bishop Jones and Loretta greeted each other last night (I didn't see much of last night's Preachers of LA because I fell asleep), they smooched for a second and went on their way. Kissing is an intimate act between a committed couple. I never knew friendship between a man & woman involved kissing, but I digress. Being a Bishop is a high profile job, and everything you do is analyzed to the T: Who you're with, what you're doing, and so on. Because Bishop Jones, Ron Gibson, Wayne, Jay, Deitrick and others are in the spotlight, they travel in the same circles so the slightest situation will get around. I said all that to say this: Sip & See is just another fancy term for getting involved in someone's business.